Buddhism and the Conundrum of Forgiveness
People make mistakes. Life is too short to hold grudges. Forgiveness is necessary. And this may be one area where Westerners score higher on the Richter scale of righteousness than Asians, but that isn’t necessarily the fault of Buddhism. I think forgiveness is certainly encouraged by Buddhism, but other forces are at play, also. Still, forgiveness is one of the foundations of Christianity, and that is to its credit. Because forgiveness is one of the hardest things in life, and it can only be perfected with practice.
The hard part is sometimes admitting fault, but that is not always necessary, nor is it completely discernible as to who the offending party is. So, then the hard part is simply letting go of those selfish considerations to concentrate on starting anew. Most Buddhists embrace the idea of living in the present moment, so this semi-necessary re-start should be second nature. If we truly live in the present moment, then we’ll never become bogged down in reconciling the past nor plotting the future.
But that’s easier said than done, and though I’m not the ‘present moment’s biggest loudspeaker, I’m certainly a loyal fan from the bleacher seats. For one thing, the Buddha never said much about the Present Moment, to my knowledge, and for another, it doesn’t mesh well with the concept of karma. The future can be a beautiful sea of possibilities, too, hardly the drudgery that is often characteristic of the past. As always, the Middle Path rules. So, the act of forgiveness need not be some ritual of self-mortification when a simple ‘letting go’ will do just fine.
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