Buddhism and the Joy of Giving 

Give without concern about what you will get in return, except for the joy of giving. This is the simplest thing in the world, but also the hardest: simple to understand, but hard to carry out. Because so many of us are accustomed to approaching life as transactional, that it’s hard to see it as empathetic, or even sympathetic, sometimes. Sure, this is a principle easy to understand in the abstract, but not so easy to put down funds with no guarantee in return, not even the joy of giving, necessarily, depending on the habits of the receiving party. 

Because, if you’re expecting profuse appreciation and lavish attention, then you may be disappointed. One of the reasons that needy people are so needy is that they’ve sometimes, but not always, missed out on the social niceties that make life enjoyable: please, thank you, hello, goodbye, and I love you. But even those niceties can be transactional, if they are used as bargaining chips in the process of negotiation, which was probably never intended to be a negotiation in the first place. 

But such is the status of our modern online world of scams and scammers: they’ll contact you, don’t worry. So, do you just blow them off? Or do you politely listen to them and then blow them off? Does that feel better? Because it’s always about feeling, whether they’re love scammers or orphanages in Uganda: pulling heartstrings for purse strings. You’re enticed to donate money, for which you will feel good in return. And that’s fine. This is a world of feeling, after all. But don’t get angry, if it isn’t everything you expected. Give for the joy of giving, nothing more nothing less.